Who is Happy? The Crow and the Peacock.

Who is Happy? The Crow and the Peacock.

Image result for crow and peacock story moral

A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan. “This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so black. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world.”

He expressed his thoughts to the swan. “Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation.” The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors.”

The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, the crow approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shoo me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”

The peacock replied, “I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past few days I have been thinking that if I were a crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”

That’s our problem too. We make unnecessary comparison with others and become sad. We don’t value what God has given us.  This all leads to the vicious cycle of unhappiness.  Learn to be happy in what you have instead of looking at what you don’t have.   There will always be someone who will have more or less than you have.  Person who is satisfied with what he/she has, is the happiest person in the world.

 

In today’s world where most people live their lives on Social Media portraying exotic vacations, eating the most scrumptious food and always looking picture perfect, how can we be satisfied with our own lives? Lives, where there is everyday struggles, where there is the good and the bad, where there is darkness at times and then light. How can we not compare our lives to other?

First, we have to be thankful everyday for our lives for so many people will not wake up today.

If you have food in your fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of the world.

If you have clean running water, 884 million people in the world do not have access to safe water. This is roughly one in eight of the world’s population. (WHO/UNICEF)

If you have money in the bank, your wallet, and some spare change you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness you are more blessed than the million people who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the agony of imprisonment or torture, or the horrible pangs of starvation you are luckier than 500 million people alive and suffering.

If you can read this message you are more fortunate than 3 billion people in the world who cannot read it at all.

Author:Unknown

 

“God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say ‘thank you?’ – William Arthur Ward

So, today start your day by saying thank you God for being alive, and when you start to compare your lives to others, think about all that you have to be grateful for. Try to spend today not complaining once about what you don’t have, or what you are unhappy abou,t or what you are angry about. Everytime a dissatisfied thought, or an angry feeling, or an unhappy picture pops into your head, say thank you to God for your many blessings. Stop comparing your lives to others, and be contented.

AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

The Beat Beneath My Feet

AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

The tale of a teenage loner (Nicholas Galitzine) who found out that his unruly neighbor (Luke Perry) is really a disgraced rock god who “died” eight years ago, and owned a fortune in unpaid taxes. Nick agrees not to disclose the musician’s secret if he teaches him how to become a Rock Legend.

Most of us will not have a Rock God to teach us how to become a legend, but below are 5 tips that could become the Beat Beneath My Feet and Your Feet, and can catapult us to Stardom or Happiness.

1. What is your reason to get up in the morning?

Viktor Frankl, a Psychiatrist and author of “Man’s Search for Meaning.” He was in a concentration camp…and he said when people lost their reason to get up in the morning, they were dead within 24 hours.

Our twenty-one month old grandson wakes up every  morning excited, and is ready to face the world with passion. He can’t wait to jump out of bed to see his same old toys and to charge around his home as if he is seeing it for the very first time. If only  adults could greet each new day with his energy and motivation.

greet-each-day
Grandson, Logan Worthington, enjoying the day!

But most of us get up in the morning just because we have to, and, thus, waking up is a chore. However, if we have a great reason as to why we get up in the morning, and it is more than just about a daily routine of work or school, eat and sleep, then that passion will make us see each day as an opportunity to make an impact on the world. So, seek what is your purpose in life and once you have a reason to wake up in the morning, you will greet each day with zest and eager expectations.

2. What are your goals and Do you know what it takes to get to your goals?

Many of us have many ideas floating around inside our heads of what we want in life, but have no goals and if we do, have no idea how to get there. What do you hope to achieve in next year, the next five years and the next ten years. First, you have to write down your goals and then plan how you are going to achieve those goals. When you write down your goals, it has a powerful effect of making them permanent and real.

What can you do daily to invest in your goals. Writing down your goals is the first step, but you need a plan on how to achieve them. Then you go out and execute your plan everyday by taking a couple of actions to get you closer to them. Then pursue every possible opportunity to obtain your goals

“You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands – your own.”

– Mark Victor Hansen, author, TV personality and co-founder of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series

3. Are you a first class version of yourself?

You have to become the best version of yourself in whatever career or field that you are in. Don’t leave anything to chance or luck, if everyday, you do something to further your career or your business, you will become more skilled and more successful. Identify one thing that you should learn that could change your life, work or school for the better. And, go out and learn it.

PHOTO COURTESY:https://www.usab.com

Jordan didn’t make varsity when he first tried out for his high school basketball team. However, he became first class by practicing more than everyone else. Michael is the number one basketball player of all times, He became a first class version of himself and earned 5 Most Valuable Player Awards(MVP) and 6 NBA championships.

This is what he said,

“Whenever I was working out and got tired and figured I ought to stop, I’d close my eyes and see that list in the locker room without my name on it… that usually got me going again.”

Michael used his failure to serve as a growth to success, instead of giving up or moping around, his failure made him become a first class version of himself. Until the end of his career,  he was the first person to get to the gym and the last one to leave during his career. Jordan did not leave anything to chance, but worked the hardest to become the best basketball player of all times. What do you need to do to become the best version of yourself?

4. Do you give more than you take?

Our relationships are the most important aspect of our lives, and can you imagine what a beautiful world this would be if we all give more than we take. But most of us take more than we give. Our spouses, our children, our parents, our families and friends matter the most to us and so we should give them our best, but do we?

We have a good friend, MJ, and she gives, gives, gives. She gives to her family, her friends, her church, her community, her students, her neighbors. MJ has tons of energy and is always giving more than she takes. Everybody that she meets, she touches their lives in some small way by giving them a word of encouragement or a smile or a prayer, a ride or something else. And she always does it with a smile.

“When you start giving, instead of getting, you make a difference. You can always give a warm smile, a sincere hello, a positive vibe… your attention, your time, your love, and kindness to those around you.”
Roy T. Bennett

MJ has figured out that Happiness is associated with giving more than taking. Whether it is simply listening to a friend, giving a hand to a lonely or sick neighbor, or volunteering at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. When we  serve and give to others, it fulfils us. We have to give more than we receive. I am not saying to become a doormat in any relationship, or to give until you become resentful. But giving is far more fulfilling than giving.

Today, evaluate your relationships and let us try to give more than we receive. Give more to our spouses, our children, our friends, our neighbors, our co-workers and even the strangers that we meet today. It could be forgiveness, a smile, a compliment, a word of encouragement, a prayer, lunch money or a ride.

5. Do You Pay It Forward?

The next time somebody does something good or kind for you, pay it forward by doing a good or kind deed for somebody else. Also, ask that person to pay it forward. Look at it as if that person lend it to you and you have to pay it forward to somebody else. Let us spend each day paying it forward to the next person we meet some act of kindness or charity or good deed.

Pay It Forward was described by Benjamin Franklin, in a letter to Benjamin Webb dated April 25, 1784:

I do not pretend to give such a deed; I only lend it to you. When you […] meet with another honest Man in similar Distress, you must pay me by lending this Sum to him; enjoining him to discharge the Debt by a like operation, when he shall be able, and shall meet with another opportunity. I hope it may thus go thro’ many hands, before it meets with a Knave that will stop its Progress. This is a trick of mine for doing a deal of good with a little money.

Somebody smiled at you, repay it by smiling and acknowledging the next person that you see. You got a compliment on your outfit, call out to that surly co-worker of yours and compliment them on their bright outfit. Your car broke down and your kind neighbor gave you a ride to work, give the single mother a ride to the train station. Look out throughout the day to pay it forward any good thing or act that somebody did for you today.

Let us know who or what is the “Beat beneath your feet.”

 

The Wrecking Crew!

 

SOCIAL MEDIA SHOULD IMPROVE YOUR LIFE, NOT BECOME YOUR LIFE! RITU GHATOUREY

THE WRECKING CREW is a documentary film produced and directed by Denny Tedesco, as a tribute to his father, late Wrecking Crew guitarist Tommy Tedesco. The movie tells us about the unsung musicians that provided the beat, the rhythm and the tempo that gave us many number one hits in the 1960’s. From Nat “King” Cole, Frank Sinatra, Nancy Sinatra, The Monkees, The Byrds or The Beach Boys, these musicians became a musical force around the world.

Many of us have our very own Wrecking Crew, and they do not make us Rock Stars or give us number one hits. However, ours give us addictions, depression, unhealthy eating habits, disrupt our lives, and cause many problems in our marriages and families. The World’s favorite Wrecking Crew is Social Media. Around the world, billions  use social media every day, and it’s estimated that by 2018, 2.44 billion people will be using social networks.

Social Media has revolutionize traditional communication and with a few keystrokes we can reach anyone at anytime around the world, and it is free. It is a much more faster way to reach our loved ones worldwide. We can access information, research and news at the click of a button. Non-profits  use social media for their awareness campaigns, and it is an effective way of getting support, and they can easily reached hundreds of thousands of people and these sites can become central to raise funds quickly for a disaster.

So these networking sites should be a great Wrecking Crew Band for our lives, however Social Media has been wrecking many lives and relationships. Our love affair with Face-Book, Twitter, Instagram, WhatsApp and all the other sites and apps can easily lead to unhappiness, addiction, or it leads to risky or unhealthy behaviors, and also infidelity and even divorce.

Social Media is addictive.

When we spend so much time on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Snapshot and WhatsApp, it disrupts other parts of our daily lives, and has become an addiction. Studies show that 63% of Americans log on to Facebook daily, and 40% log on multiple times each day. Everyone is on Facebook and other Social Media, and we’re posting pictures, sharing feeds and content 24/7. We all have a fear of missing out(fomo) so we constantly have to check our phones to see who is doing what or how many likes we’ve got on out latest post.

Social Media can make us unhappy.

A study from the University of Michigan  found that the more we use Social Media, the more unhappy we were, and had lower satisfaction in our lives’ overall. That is because we seek our self-worth from others’ affirmations, instead of our own selves. The click of a button decides whether  we are happy or not. Many of us post the most exotic vacations and fancy dinners and the perfect pictures and make our lives look so fabulous. Instead of focusing on what really our lives are about, we live in a make-believe world on social media.

We compare our lives to others on Social Media, and as President Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  Many of us feel bad that our own lives are not as exciting or perfect as so many try to portray on their Facebook or Twitter or Instagram.  The amount of likes that we receive, intensify our depression. Many of us use social media to get attention from our friends and yes, even people we don’t know. When we do not get as many likes as others, we could feel less popular and less appealing to the rest of the world.

But just as quickly as I might scroll through Instagram and see 100 people liked a photo of me, and that makes me feel good, the next moment I might see all of my friends hanging out the night before and wonder why I wasn’t invited and feel extremely lonely about that. Now more than ever there are some major highs and really depressing lows, and they come so close together. So you begin to feel numb to genuine emotion…

Kim Stolz, stated in a June 24, 2014 TIME titled “Kim Stolz: How Social Media Is Ruining Our Relationships”:

Social Media can lead to Unhealthy Eating And Eating Disorder.

According to NEDA, about 30 million Americans suffer from a clinically significant eating disorder at some point of their lives. Social Media can trigger and influence the progression of an eating disorder. Being exposed frequently to certain images can be damaging for those who are more vulnerable to developing an eating disorder. Hospitalizations for eating disorders are on the rise. Social networks feature photos and other images that glorify thinness. A study done by the University of Haifa in 2011 showed that the more time teenage girls spent on Facebook, they developed a higher risk of negative body images and eating disorders like anorexia, bulimia and exaggerated dieting.

Social Media leads to infidelity.

It is so easy to hook up with a past love or a crush on Facebook, Twitter or WhatsApp that can lead to infidelity. Though many start out innocently, these communication can quickly lead to an affair. Although in fairness to Social Media, there must be something lacking in their own relationships that cause these people to seek out a romantic relationship with someone other than their partners. Social Media is just another tool to quickly break rules in your relationships.

A Boston University study showed that  Facebook plays a significant role in divorce and spousal troubles in the United States’. Heavy social media are 32% more likely to leave their spouse. A doctoral student at the University of Missouri School of Journalism found that active Twitter users  experience Twitter-related conflicts with their romantic partners. According to the London Times, Gian Ettore Gassani president of the Italian Association of Matrimonial Lawyers, said ‘forty per cent of adulterous divorce cases in Italy cite WhatsApp messages as evidence of unfaithfulness.

Social Media cuts into our time

As soon as we wake up , we are on our phones or tablets and laptops and we easily get lost in endless feeds and updates about others’ fake lives. Before we know it we have easily wasted a couples hours of our time doing nothing.  A study taken by Ohio State University showed that college students who use Facebook spend less time studying and have lower grades than students who don’t use it. Parents are missing out on spending quality time with their children as they are so busy trying to capture the perfect picture.

Let us use Social Media to be the Wrecking Crew Band  to improve the tempo, rhythm and harmony in our lives. Not as a Wrecking Crew to destroy our families, our marriages, our lives and our communities. The only way we can do so is by not having it control our lives. We have  to be as G. Hannelius said :

With the Internet and social media being a huge part of today’s culture, I think it’s super important to promote staying smart online.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Three Tips To Make Work a Happy Gig.

AUTHOR: ROSSANA S MOHAMMED

12 of the Best Gratitude Quotes + Picture Quotes:
PHOTOCOURTESY:DAMYLIFE.COM

Gallup poll shows, nearly 90% of the world’s workers view
work as a source of frustration more than one of fulfillment. Most of us are not connected to our workplaces,  and are less productive. But we all work mostly so we could pay our bills, and  we spend about 40 hours or more a week at our jobs. According to a research by Oregon State University, working past age 65 may extend your life, whereas retiring early could mean an earlier death. So, since working may keep us alive for a longer time, here are three tips to being happy at work.

1. Have a positive attitude at work.

“Making the choice to have a positive attitude everyday is the cure of all cures #ifyourhappyandyouknowclapyourhands #humblebragish,”

Katy Perry once tweeted.  Perry, is an American singer and songwriter, and her estimated net worth as of 2016 is $125 million. Perry knows about positive attitude, just look at her bank account.

Keep smiling to stay positive.

Smile at your co-workers, your customers and even when you are alone. Smiling puts you in a more positive mood, and the people around you will see you as a friendly person, and they will want to be around you. For a positive attitude is contagious. Smiling releases endorphins and serotonin, known as the feel good hormones. So even if you are having a difficult day, keep smiling. You don’t have to be fake, but you will feel better.

Being Positive helps  you to Seek Solutions.

Employees who have a positive attitude are more motivated to overcome obstacles thay they may face during their work day. They look for ways to fix the problems, and try to resolve them. Whereas negative employees will only see the challenges and lament about them, but they will never offer any solutions. Also remind yourself the good  your company does for its’ customers, or society. Then pat yourself on the back for your contribution to this great organization.

2. Have an attitude of gratitude

Many research shows that people who have an attitude of gratitude are more energetic, happier and more resilient. Robert Emmons, PhD, professor of psychology, University of California, Davis, and Michael E. McCullough, PhD, professor of psychology, University of Miami found gratitude  improves not only our  health and happiness; but also improves our personal and social lives. Oprah, the queen of TV and  gratitude said.

I know for sure that appreciating whatever shows up for you in life changes your personal vibration. You radiate and generate more goodness for yourself when you’re aware of all you have and not focusing on your have-nots.

More than sixteen years ago, Oprah started a gratitude journal and, every day, wrote down five things she was grateful for. From fresh flowers to the kindness of a stranger, Oprah says if you focus on what you have, you will have more, but if you focus on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. So, get a journal, whether it is simple notebook or a fancy notebook or a journal online, and everyday, write down five things that you are grateful for.

Oprah Winfrey, talk show host, actress, producer, and philantropist, and as of 2014, Winfrey has a net worth in excess of 2.9 billion dollars. One of the world’s richest woman takes time out to be grateful, what about you?

Gratitude increases our productivity.

Gratitude increases our self-esteem and reduces our insecurity and helps us to be more productive at work. We are more focused at work, and are not distracted by worries or use our energy to dispense negative emotions. Gratitude makes us more effective and better at decision making. Expressing thanks to our co-workers also creates empathy and trust in our workplace, and builds a sense of purpose and team work.

3. Have a sense of humor

When things are really bad, they only thing you can do is to-
Laugh.

Jim Carrey, is a Canadian actor, comedian, impressionist, screenwriter, and producer.
His net worth in 2014: $150 million

Employees who use humor at work are happier and less stressed, have better coping mechanism and are more productive. Use humor to diffuse a tense situation or to make light of it, and to see the world from a different perspective.  So, keep telling those funny jokes or sharing those hilarious youtube videos, as it not only boost morale, but also makes us more likable.

Laughter releases endorphins which makes us feel happy and reduces stress and anxiety; it helps the lungs, heart and brain. This boost our immune system and helps to fight off illnesses, and so we stay home less from work. Off-color jokes or stereotypical jokes or self-deprecating jokes should never be used and will not be tolerated, so stay away from those. Humor when used appropriately and with moderation can make our workplace a fun environment.

Let us know in our comments section, how you are staying happy at work.

 

A Reason, Season or Lifetime.

Image result for pictures about a reason, season or lifetime
PHOTO COURTESY:www..spiritandthecity.com

People come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

We all have reasons, seasons or lifetimes in our life right now.  The Key is making these Reasons a Lifetime!!!

UNKNOWN.

When relationships end, whether is a marriage or a friendship, we are broken up by the loss, and when we are hurting, we cannot see the reason. However, loss is a necessary part of our growth as humans, and we can use this to grow and learn, and become stronger. When a relationship ends, we are so hurt or betrayed that we tend  to focus only on the bad and our hurt feelings.

However we should try to see what was good about the relationship, and acknowledge if we played a part in the break-up. If we didn’t, that is their loss. Try not to hold any grudge or resentment, or, stop trying to make new friends. See it as a chapter in our journey of life, and try to make the next chapter even better and more beautiful when you make new relationships.

Some people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, or to support us, or to bring us joy or happiness, or to uplift us and put a smile on our faces every time we see them, or to empower us to try things we probably would have never done. Even the ones who have treated us badly, we can learn from them so that we don’t go into the same kind of relationships again. Then once that need has been met, the friendship ends for some reason or season. It has served its’ purpose, and now it is time to move on.

Then, we have the Lifetime relationships whether it be our spouses, parents, siblings, children. These relationships help us to grow even more, as they teach us how to love unconditionally. Here we learn how to love, to forgive, to be generous, and all the many virtues that we need  to put our loved ones first in our lives, and to look out for their best interest. A friend or a spouse or a family member will meet different needs in us, but no-one can meet all of our needs, only God can!

However, families and friends are here to help us in this beautiful journey of life. So, people come into our lives for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime. Try to learn something from each relationship, grow from it, and cherish each one for what it is. And try to be one of those people that “Flavia Weedn is talking about:

“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.”

AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

Love Is Not Dead!

love-is-a-choice

Love Is Not Dead !

The internet is buzzing with the break-up of Angelie Jolie and Brad Pitt, and suddenly, everybody is a relationship expert as to whom is at fault. Many are crying out on social media that, “Love is dead.” Since when love is based on a Hollywood romance where these movie stars change their partners faster than the average person changes their cell phones?

Love is not dead, it is just clouded by a culture that defines love as a feeling. Love is not a feeling, it is a choice. It is a choice that married couples in good marriages have to make everyday to stay committed to each other and their marriages. So many couples start out so madly in love and then suddenly they can’t stand the sight of each other. How did these couples go from love to such hatred and bitterness? About half of all marriages in the USA end in divorces, and many of our millennials are choosing to shack-up, instead of getting married.

Children are the ones who suffer the most, and many children are affected even into their adulthood. •  Judith Wallerstein did a study and found that the negative impact of family breakup continues well into adulthood. Chip Ingram, Love, Sex and Lasting Relationships explained it best,

“I don’t know if I believe in marriage. I get close to someone, then the same thing happens. I’m scared to death to make a commitment. I don’t know how marriage is supposed to work, but I know I grew up in a family where it didn’t. The models that I had didn’t work, and I’ve got mixed feelings about Mom and Dad. I was two days with one parent and two weeks with the other; summers in one house and school years in another. They kept asking me to choose who I wanted to stay with. Why couldn’t they choose to stay together?”

Married couples have to choose to stay in love. “Low-conflict marriages that end in divorce are very damaging to children, according to Dr. Paul Amato, a sociologist at Penn State University, because “the surprised children have not been aware of the discord. About 55 percent to 60 percent of divorces occur in low-conflict marriages.”

These low-conflict marriages could have been saved, and if there is no abuse, or drugs or alcohol involved, couples should try to save their marriages for they are damaging the most vulnerable of all, their children, and many couples regret getting a divorce. Researchers in England found that 54 per cent of divorcees had second thoughts about whether they had made the right decision, with many  missing or still loving their ex-partner. Here is what a divorced dad wrote.

“I would wish to comment on the letter that ran Jan. 2 concerning the weakening of men and children through divorce. Anne Smart-Pearce was the author.

To my great sorrow, I must admit I am a divorced husband and father. Anne speaks of the terrible price that is being paid and then asks, ‘If a mother had an equal fear of losing her children, would she so readily seek a divorce? Or would she do all in her power to avert such a tragic outcome?’

Might I add this, husbands and wives, if there is even one-half of an ounce of friendliness left in your marriage, take each other by the hand, look at each other’s eyes and then remember of the love that brought you together in the first place! Let each other know, somehow, that you are needed, loved and wanted! If you fail, you will reap the whirlwind, especially you, fathers. You will lose all that is important, near and dear to you. And that is your sweet wife, your wonderful children and your home. Oh, that I had been more wise and not let my pride be my downfall. I can tell you with knowledge that a seemingly endless tragedy does await! The mornings do come when you awake, call her name and then realize that you are alone in a house that is ever silent and does not answer back.” (Guy M. Bradley, West Point, Utah, Deseret New)

Couples have to work everyday to stay in love and to choose to love each other. But how can they when our society encourages divorce as the answer? Below are three ways for couples to choose to love:

Choose To Have Date Nights.

Couples need to rekindle their romance by having regular date nights, and it needs to be consistent. Once a week is good, but if that is not possible , once a month is a must. It could be dinner and a movie, or a picnic in the park, or a night out dancing, or taking an art class together, or a walk on the beach. Put it down on your calendar, I Phone, or I Pad, and keep these dates. If you don’t have anyone to babysit the kids, put them to bed early and have a candle light dinner at home. Date nights help you to reconnect with the person that you fell in love with, and keep the spark in your relationships.

Choose To Show Your Appreciation Daily.

So many couples take each other for granted, and see only the negative. Compliments are easy to give, and we should give three or more of these daily to our spouses. Maybe she is a great cook, tell her how much you appreciate her effort in making all those delicious meals. He is a great provider, thank him for taking such great care of you and the children. He has beautiful eyes, let him know that you love his brown eyes. She has an infectious laugh, let her know how much you love hearing her laugh.

Choose To Put Your Spouse First.

Your children, your jobs, your families, your friends, your I-phones or tablets, or social media should not come first before your beloved. You need to have your priorities right, and put your spouses as your number one in your lives. Find time for each other, and don’t let anyone or anything get between the two of you. Some men go home after a hard day at work, and just spend hours relaxing in front of the TV. And some women are so fixated on their kids, that they don’t give their husbands five minutes of their time. Everyday, find at least 15 to 30 minutes for each other. Find out how was each other’s day, and how your spouse is feeling or thinking. Just like how you have to re-charge your I-Phones everyday or they are not going to work, you have to find time for each for your marriages to stay alive.

Love is a choice, not a feeling, and everyday couples have to make that choice to love each other. Let us know how you keep your love alive in your marriage in our comment sections.

AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

A Race Car Driver’s Legacy.

picmonkey-image-4

“One of the gifts that Bryan gave us while we sat next to him praying for some good news, was the moment we found out he was an organ donor. It shouldn’t have surprised us. All of us have felt Bryan’s generosity throughout his life. The gift of life is the most amazing gesture and Bryan will live on not only through us and all the people he touched along the way, but from the lucky individuals that will benefit from Bryan making a decision to be a donor.”

clauson
Racecar driver Bryan Clauson: COURTESY OF 44 NEWS

The Clauson’s 27-year-old son, Sprint race car driver, Bryan Clauson died on August 7th, 2016, from  injuries he had suffered in a  crash on the race tracks.

“We weren’t given any hope,” said Tim Clauson, his father.

Bryan was an organ donor. Sure this is what their son would have wanted, his family began a campaign called “Chasing 200” to honor Clauson, with the hope that 200 people would become organ donors. Bryan was scheduled to make history by racing 200 times in 2016. But then this tragedy would turn into a legacy of hope, as his organs saved five other people’s lives. As of date, about 5000 people have honored Bryan’s life by becoming organ donors, so about 25,000 people’s lives have been saved by Bryan’s Clauson’s celebration of life.

Bryan won many championships, but his untimely death has turned into an amazing celebration of life for many. Chasing 200 Campaign is one of the largest national organ donation campaigns ever.

Do you want to honor Bryan Clauson’s memory, register as an organ and tissue donor at RegisterMe.org/Campaign/BryanClauson.

Families411 salutes Bryan Clauson’s memory and his legacy.

What is your legacy, what do you plan on leaving for those left behind? Let us know in our comment section.

 

International Pardon Day

September 8th 1974, President Gerald Ford pardoned Richard M. Nixon of all wrongdoing related to the Watergate affair. So International Pardon Day is celebrated on September 8th, and you could use this day to let go of any grudge or resentment or anger against anyone who has hurt you. Forgiving your offender is not letting him or her off the hook, nor condoning this act, but rather it is setting you free.

– Steve Maraboli

What is known about forgiveness is that it is an act that brings happiness to those who give it, one can release the hold on the negative emotions they’re harboring in themselves, but they cannot release the associated guilt for the person who committed the act. As a result, forgiveness is for the one giving it, rather than the one who committed the transgression. Research has shown that those who have chosen to give up resentments live longer lives as a result to an improvement in their cardiovascular and nervous systems.

Three Ordinary People Who Did The Extraordinary Act: They Forgive Their Loved Ones Killers

 

Jessie Lewis
Jesse Lewis, six years old, along with 19 other children and six adults were massacred.

Jesse Lewis was killed in the 2012 Sandy Hook Elementary School, CT shooting, a few hours after he had written, “I love you’ on his mom’s frosty car door as he left for school.  His mother was very angry at the shooter and his mother but then she chose to forgive. Scarlett Lewis told The Forgiveness Project, “Forgiveness felt like I was given a big pair of scissors to cut the tie and regain my personal power. It started with a choice and then became a process.”

  • Chris WIlliamsChristopher Williams, a LSD BIshop, and his family were going home one night from a basketball game on February 9th 2007, when a drunk teen smashed into their car and then ran away. His pregnant wife Michelle, 11-year-old son Ben, and nine-year-old daughter Anna were killed.
    Chris said, “Moments after the accident, as I knew my wife and children were gone, I heard a voice as plain as day that said, ‘Just let it go.’”Overcome with grief and guilt, Chris chose to forgive the offender and even pleaded with the court to try him as a juvenile instead of an adult. So the young man would only serve until he was 21 years instead of a 30-year sentence. Chris used his faith to forgive. The young man got a second chance from his victim, turned his life around, and when he got married a few years later, Chris Williams attended his wedding.Chris is now remarried as well and is a guest speaker who travels the United States, talking about the power of forgiveness. He wrote about his tragedy and it is now a new film “Just Let Go,” which is based on Chris’ remarkable story. The movie is in selected theaters now. It stars Henry Ian Cusick, Brenda Vaccaro and Sam Sorbo.
  • kathy & Bob Hutchinson

Kathy and Bob McIntosh had four year old twins: a boy and girl, and happily married with successful careers.Their lives would change on New Year’s Eve, Bob went to quiet down a rowdy party next door thrown by his neighbor’s teenage son. It would prove to be a fatal mistake as he was punched and kicked to death. The kids there that night were not talking and they formed “A Bond of Silence”. Kathy’s story was made into a movie on lifetime, Bond of Silence.

But Kathy decided to forgive the killer, and this what she says, “Whether victim or perpetrator, part of being human is rolling up our sleeves and taking an active part in repairing harm. My children had lost their father and I did not want them to lose me in the process. If I had been consumed by hatred, anger and vengeance, what kind of mother would I be? Something happened when Bob died and I found my voice. Forgiveness became an opportunity to create a new and hopeful beginning”.

Three people and their families who suffered senseless losses and should be consumed by hatred and anger, but all three of them chose to forgive. Hopefully most of us do not have to suffer as Scarlett, Kathy and Chris did, but we all have been hurt sometime in our lives. Whether it is a parent, sibling, spouse, in-law, friend, neighbor or co-worker, or stranger, today is the day that maybe we could forgive and let go of that hatred or anger or resentment.

Three Simple Ways To Forgive

Forgiveness is a choice.

We can choose to forgive our transgressors, and by doing so, we are doing ourselves a favor. So many victims have said that once they have decided to forgive the offender, it as if a toxic weight was lifted off their shoulder. We can get bogged down with hatred and anger, and our whole life becomes consumed with the offender and the act. When we do that we give the perpetrator control over our lives. When we are hurt by someone, we want them to suffer, or we want justice, or we want an apology. Until then we live in agony and resentment. We give our power away to the person who has hurt us. We can regain that power by choosing to forgive which sets us free and give us peace of mind.

Forgiveness is a process.

Forgiveness is a process and it does not happen overnight. We have to work through our feelings and this takes time and energy and for many does not come easily. We have to deal with the anger, fear, resentment, hatred and bitterness, and replace them with peace, kindness and tenderness.

Put your thoughts on paper.

We do not have to face our transgressors if we do not wish to, but we can write down our feelings on paper. Start writing how you feel and tell them how their action has affected you. describe your deepest emotions and thoughts about how your life has changed. Writing could become a healthy outlet for your anger as you can tell them everything you want to say. It could take an hour or a day or a week or months to finish that letter. The letter ends when you can write down, I forgive you. You don’t have to send it if you don’t want to. You could burn it and as it goes up in flame, release all the hurt and pain with it.

On International Pardon Day, we are reminded to forgive someone, and let go of the grudge or hatred or resentment. Free yourself from the toxicity of holding unto hurtful feelings and watch yourself soar as you let go. Remember  none of us is perfect, only God is. So pick up the phone, or send an email, or write that letter.

In our comment section, let us know how you forgive someone, and the feelings that you experienced when you let go.

 

 

 

Happiness Is Real Cheap.

AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

13710643_10101436739768890_3987638282046354942_o (1)

The United States of America is the wealthiest country in the world, but yet many Americans are not happy. The World Happiness Report found that Americans showed “significant decreases” in happiness from 2013 to 2015, and the United States is ranked as the 13th happiest country in the 2016 poll. The report listed Denmark as the happiest country. Admit You’re Happy Day was first celebrated by The Secret Society of Happy People on August 8, 1999. Then in 2000, they celebrated happiness in the entire month of August, renaming it Happiness Happens Day and Month.

Today we can celebrate “Admit you’re happy today by some simple ways. Below are some pictures and quotes to help you to be happy.

 

friends

“Of all the means to insure happiness throughout the whole life, by far the most important is the acquisition of friends.”
Epicurus, A Guide To Happiness

  1.  Have a couple of  close friends.

    National surveys find that when someone has about 5 or more friends with whom they can talk about their problems, they are 60 percent more likely to say that they are ‘very happy’. Have a couple of close trusted friends to share your life with.

12374868_10101248970495020_2810517599871747231_o

Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.

2. Being grateful.

Two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, found in a study, who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. They also exercised more and had fewer visits to doctors. So get out the grateful journal and start writing three things that you are thankful for. Do this on a daily basis, and start unlocking the fullness of life as Melody Beattie says below

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

 

12356847_10101242104709110_5427671993756611363_o

“Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.”

Deepak Chopra

3. Happiness is a choice, not a feeling.

This is what “Ware, the author of The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying, said about happiness:

“Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again … Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

 

21_AZS050116bRhyan

We find delight in the beauty and happiness of children that makes the heart too big for the body.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Be like kids and smile and be happy.

I have two grandkids both under 2 years, and you simply cannot be around them and be sad. It is such a joy to be infected with their happy smiles as laughter is natural for kids. They smile a lot more often than adults do. (up to 40 times a day more!) So reconnect with the inner child in you. Be around little kids and soak up their energy and delight.

HealthTap founder Ron Gutman says, “If you smile you’ll have better health, a better marriage and other relationships, and increased life expectancy.” So keep smiling.

So this year as we celebrate Admit you are Happy Day, how happy are we?

Find out with this Happiness Quiz: How Happy Are You? 

Please Embrace My Humanity!

 

“One of the most spiritual things you can do is embrace your humanity. Connect with those around you today. Say, “I love you”, “I’m sorry”, “I appreciate you”, “I’m proud of you”…whatever you’re feeling. Send random texts, write a cute note, embrace your truth and share it…cause a smile today for someone else…and give plenty of hugs.”
― Steve Maraboli

When we embrace our humanity, we connect to our families, friends, co-workers, and strangers. We connect to them when we show appreciation, love, respect, and acceptance. Let us celebrate this coming Friday, the last Friday in July as “Embrace Your Humanity Today”. To do so, let us all appreciate our family members, friends, co-workers, and all those we meet today. Greet them with a smile, hug or kiss: Send a text of appreciation; Be kind to a stranger; Reach out with kindness to a difficult co-worker, Befriend some-one whose skin or religion is different. Americans, can we have a Day to “Embrace our humanity, and connect with all the wonderful people in our lives, and the random strangers we will encounter today?

Our beautiful America: Land of the free and Home of the brave is in turmoil as we battle tension, hatred, and violence between our Police Officers and minorities. How about on Friday, instead of seeing the worse in each other, we appreciate each man, not by the color of his skin, but by embracing his humanity? Let us all give each other a second chance, or be open to understand our struggles and our differences. Today, let all Americans embrace their humanity, let us put aside the hatred and anger, and reach out with love to each other. Let us make Dr. Martin Luther King Jr proud.

Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars… Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.
America is being clouded by a darkness, and it is up to each American to be a light to drive out that darkness, or our country can become a night with no stars if we continue to go down this road. Look at our politicians and our leaders as they fight to get our votes: they rile up their voters with fear and darkness to hate the other side. It is all negative and character bashing, but instead of that negativity, can our politicians embrace their humanity, and treat everyone with respect and dignity.
So on Friday, July 29th 2016, I challenge all Americans to embrace their humanity, and show it to all their loved ones, near and far, and to everyone they come into contact with today. Use Social Media and electronics to share your appreciation of your loved ones. Reach out and connect with somebody who is different from you, and make a difference today.

Below Are Some Ways We Can Embrace Our Humanity.

Shower your spouses with appreciation.

It is truly sad to watch couples who constantly criticize one another, and only see each other’s faults. They have become complacent and just take each other for granted. Embrace your humanity today, and really connect to your loved ones. So, today, instead of barking out what is wrong, and what is not good. How about saying to your spouses:

Thank you very much for making my life so much easier.

I love having you on my team.

Honey, thank you for being my friend.

Love, you are an awesome provider, and a really hard worker, Thank you.

I love how you spend time with our kids, Thank you.

Sweetheart, the house looks beautiful, thank you for all the effort you put into it.

Babes, thank you for coming into my life, you give me so much happiness.

Remember, put it also on Social Media on  7/29/2016, and let the whole world know that you are “Embracing your humanity”.

Thank Your Parents.

Reach out to your parents and say, Mom, Dad, thank you for giving me life, and I appreciate all you do, or have done for me. Thank you for all the sacrifices you have made for me, I am very grateful for the life I now have because of you. Mom, Dad, I love you. Even if they are the worst parents, call and thank them for giving you life.

put a smile on your loved ones’ faces.

Reach out to your children, sisters, brothers, cousins, friends, in-laws and let them know what they mean to you. Tell them you are thankful for their support and love. We need to let our loved ones know that we recognize and appreciate their actions and love. Here are some suggestions:

Daughter or Son, I love your kindness, your talents, your dedication, your work ethics, your infectious laughter.

Brother, you always support me in everything I do,. Thank you for having my back.

Sis, I am sorry that I hurt your feelings when I did …..

Thank You. Cuz, you can always make me laugh, keep your humor going.

Mother-in-law, I am so thankful for you, and I am grateful to you for giving me an awesome spouse.

Coach, thank you for believing in me.

Teacher, thank you for making me try out for the debate team. I am now a successful lawyer.

Compliment a difficult co-worker

Look for something good about them, and say it in front of others. Maybe they are a computer expert, or full of knowledge, or they show up for work everyday. Sure, he or she is not perfect, but neither are you. It’s part of being human, so embrace your humanity today and make a positive difference in their life today.

Don’t bash your opponents today.

Today, for just one day, let those in politics, speak no ill of their opponents, don’t distort the truth, or take something the opposition party said out of context, and twist it to further your political agenda. I know we probably cannot expect politicians to speak anything good of their opponent as that would not be good for their campaign or votes. But, today, don’t attack and discredit your opponents’ characters, and make empty promises. Just shine your light for one day by embracing your humanity.

Befriend someone who is different from you.

Step out of your comfort zone, and make an effort to befriend some-one who is different from you, or some-one you don’t understand or misjudged. Try to walk in that person’s shoes by learning more about their culture, their struggles, their pains and their past, and see why they view the world differently. This could help reduce your prejudice or preconceived views.

Thank All people who serve you.

Say a big thank you to the people who keep our offices, homes and buildings clean. Go out of your way to help them, don’t throw your garbage on the ground, put it in the bin. If you don’t know the name of the cleaning lady or guy in your office or your apartment building, find out today and greet him by his or her name the next time you see them. Leave a big tip for your waitress today, about twenty percent of your bill. Compliment her smile or his energy, and if you enjoyed the food, tell them.

Lift Up the Down-Trodden.

Put a smile on the struggling single mother living in your block by telling her that you admire what a great job she is doing with her family. Go a step further, and buy an extra bag of groceries and give to her family.  For the lonely veteran who hangs around the deli, buy him breakfast, and spend an extra five minutes asking about his day. Remember to thank him for his service.

Use Social Media To Show YOur Appreciation.

Put up a message of appreciation to your loved ones, and make sure you tag them so the world could read about it and know how much their support and love means to you. Tweet about your appreciation. or post something to Facebook, or Instagram, or Pinterest, and let them know that you are grateful to them for being in your life. Instead of sharing the “gloom & doom, or the tasteless jokes, share an appreciation quote or picture. Let us make Social Media on July 29th 2016 be painted with pictures and words of praises and appreciation for our loved ones, and even the strangers that we meet today.

No Complaints or Criticisms Today.

Try to spend this day, not complaining about anyone or anything, and let us not criticize anyone. Did somebody do something for you, but it is not up to your standard, thank them for their effort? Your food does not taste the way you would like it to be, thank them for the presentation of the food. Let us try today to see the good only in each other.

Treat everyone with dignity.

I am a human just like you and when you embrace your humanity, please recognize and embrace mine too. Don’t discard my life because of the color of my skin, or distrust me because of how I look. Don’t assume the worst of me because I am different from you. Don’t feel superior to me because of my accent, or be scared of me because of the turban I wear on my head. Don’t hate or misjudge me because of what I have, or because I wear a blue uniform. When you embrace your humanity, you can accept and appreciate the uniqueness of others who are different from you. It is only then we can see that we are all created in God’s image and likeness. We all want to be loved and accepted, and to be treated equally, and with dignity.

Today, Americans, let us truly embrace our humanity by appreciating the wonderful people in our homes, our lives, our communities and our country! Share this with everyone: Your families, Your friends, Your Co-Workers, and put a smile on everybody’s face whom you meet today. Let us learn to embrace our humanity so that everyone feels loved, connected, and appreciated today.

Please tag us on Facebook, or Twitter, or Instagram when you embrace your humanity by doing one or more of the above. But you have to join or follow us to do so. Thank you for making this day filled with love and appreciation.

Let us embrace everybody’s Humanity!

AUTHOR: ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.

IMAGE OF HUMANITY PICTURE: COURTESY OF http://achhikhabre.com/

Please wait...

Follow Us To Receive Our Inspirational Articles.

Want to be know when our article is published? Enter your email address and name below to be the first to know.
%d bloggers like this: