People come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
We all have reasons, seasons or lifetimes in our life right now. The Key is making these Reasons a Lifetime!!!
When relationships end, whether is a marriage or a friendship, we are broken up by the loss, and when we are hurting, we cannot see the reason. However, loss is a necessary part of our growth as humans, and we can use this to grow and learn, and become stronger. When a relationship ends, we are so hurt or betrayed that we tend to focus only on the bad and our hurt feelings.
However we should try to see what was good about the relationship, and acknowledge if we played a part in the break-up. If we didn’t, that is their loss. Try not to hold any grudge or resentment, or, stop trying to make new friends. See it as a chapter in our journey of life, and try to make the next chapter even better and more beautiful when you make new relationships.
Some people come into our lives to teach us a lesson, or to support us, or to bring us joy or happiness, or to uplift us and put a smile on our faces every time we see them, or to empower us to try things we probably would have never done. Even the ones who have treated us badly, we can learn from them so that we don’t go into the same kind of relationships again. Then once that need has been met, the friendship ends for some reason or season. It has served its’ purpose, and now it is time to move on.
Then, we have the Lifetime relationships whether it be our spouses, parents, siblings, children. These relationships help us to grow even more, as they teach us how to love unconditionally. Here we learn how to love, to forgive, to be generous, and all the many virtues that we need to put our loved ones first in our lives, and to look out for their best interest. A friend or a spouse or a family member will meet different needs in us, but no-one can meet all of our needs, only God can!
However, families and friends are here to help us in this beautiful journey of life. So, people come into our lives for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime. Try to learn something from each relationship, grow from it, and cherish each one for what it is. And try to be one of those people that “Flavia Weedn“ is talking about:
“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.”
AUTHOR:ROSSANA S MOHAMMED.